Grief and loss

  • Aging well,  Grief and loss,  Inspirational quotes,  Personal growth,  Risk taking

    When one door closes …

    “When certain people walk away from you, and certain opportunities close their doors on you, there is no need to hold on to them. If they close you out, take it as a direct indication that these people, circumstances, or opportunities are not part of the next chapter in your life. It’s a hint that your growth requires someone different or something more, and life is simply making room.” ~Marc & Angel Hack Life I’ve faced a lot of closed doors, having worked in journalism for more than 35 years. It’s the nature of this ever-evolving business. (Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to work in a field…

  • Grief and loss,  Health & wellbeing,  Inspirational quotes

    When you have to detour

    “Just because things hadn’t gone as I’d planned didn’t necessarily mean they’d gone wrong.” ~Ann Patchett We’re all familiar with the old saw, “Everything happens for a reason.” Sometimes the route you’ve been following isn’t the route for you. And as frustrating as it is when things go off course, the outcome you didn’t plan for might serve you better than you’d expected. Maybe you didn’t get the job you wanted, or the promotion you’d hoped for — and were motivated to look for something better? Maybe a romance didn’t work out, but the break-up led you to the spouse you cherish today? Sometimes a change in plans is exactly…

  • Aging well,  Grief and loss,  Health & wellbeing,  Home & Family

    Love and goodbye

    “Grief is the price we pay for love.” ~Queen Elizabeth II Watching the beautiful funeral ceremonies for Queen Elizabeth II yesterday, I got to thinking about the many ways that love opens us to the possibility of loss. Throughout our lives, we lose close friends who move away. As we age, our parents slow down. As our kids and grandkids grow up, we feel another kind of loss as we watch childhood give way to adulthood. Each time I wave goodbye — when a car filled with loved ones is backing out of my driveway, or I’m leaving a dear friend at a restaurant — a twinge of sadness tugs…

  • Grief and loss,  Motherhood,  Photo stories

    September memories of Mom

    “There’s a story behind everything. How a picture got on a wall. How a scar got on your face. Sometimes the stories are simple, and sometimes they are hard and heartbreaking. But behind all your stories is always your mother’s story, because hers is where yours begin.” ~Mitch Albom, One More Day September is a bittersweet month — a month of longer shadows, golden light, shorter evenings, and rich, poignant sunsets. It’s the month when cottages are closed for the summer, school resumes, sweaters are pulled from storage, and autumn officially begins. In a way that only September can do, it feels like both a beginning and an ending. September 20…

  • Grief and loss,  Home & Family,  Oakland Press columns,  Where I'm published

    Emotional baggage or timeless treasure?

    “If a gift has come to you wrapped in obligations and tied tightly with a ribbon of guilt, then it’s not really a gift at all.” ~Peter Walsh, professional organizer Organizing an estate sale is probably one of the toughest things we have to do after our parents die. If your folks collected as many family heirlooms as mine did, you’ll face the emotionally loaded task of deciding which items to keep and which ones to sell or give away. And what happens when your grown kids don’t want to inherit the family treasures? For starters, it helps to learn and understand the generational differences in what we value. My…

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