• approval seeking,  Competition,  Creativity and discovery

    Got enemies?

    “You have enemies? Why, it is the story of everyone who has done a great deed or created a new idea. It is the cloud which thunders around everything that shines. Fame must have enemies, as light must have gnats. Do not bother yourself about it. Keep your mind serene as you keep your life clear.” ~Victor Hugo There’s another similar quote that’s often misattributed to Winston Churchill. It goes something like this: “If you have enemies, that’s good. It means you stand for something.” The point is, popularity is overrated. If you’re living authentically, it’s nearly impossible to be loved by everyone all the time. But if you’re still…

  • approval seeking,  Competition,  Personal growth

    Gold stars

    “Maybe one of these days I’ll be able to give myself a gold star for being ordinary, and maybe one of these days I’ll give myself a gold star for being extraordinary — for persisting. And maybe one day I won’t need to have a star at all.” ~Sue Bender, Plain and Simple In our early grade school years, teachers rewarded our best efforts with gold star-shaped stickers. Remember the delicious rush of achievement you felt every time your test came back with a bright gold star at the top? Even when we’re old enough to judge the quality of our own work, some of us still need validation or…

  • Competition,  Inspirational quotes,  Motivation,  Rumi quotes and poetry

    No contest

    “Take someone who doesn’t keep score,who’s not looking to be richer, or afraid of losing,who has not the slightest interest evenin his own personality: He is free.” ~Rumi  A little competition is a positive thing. It can keep us motivated and productive. In the business world, for instance, competition gives us an edge. And you can’t have much of a contest without competing against another team or contestant. Somebody’s gotta win the game, right? In today’s quote, the Sufi poet Rumi presents a different view of competition: The person who’s not desperate to come out ahead is the one who’s truly “free.” In other words, when you’re not looking over your…