The remedy for loneliness

“You can’t stay in your corner of the forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.” ~A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

By now, you’ve read the news reports citing loneliness as a health crisis in America. According to medical experts, the lack of in-person social activity leads to serious outcomes, including heart disease, dementia, and diabetes. Ironically — despite our many social media connections — Americans aren’t fully engaging with others in reciprocal, three-dimensional ways.

Relationships are built on initiation and effort. Too often, we hang back in silence and wonder why we’re bored or lonely or overlooked. All too often, we wait for others to reach out and make the plans — as if we’re not responsible for our own social lives. Sometimes we fear rejection; sometimes we’re too shy or too busy. Without fully realizing it, we create a forest of isolation.

What’s the best way out? Start with small steps and simple plans. (You don’t have to throw a dinner party.) Send a note to an old friend; meet a neighbor for coffee. If you want to get creative, check the website for your local library, where you’ll find free events and other opportunities to meet interesting people. Be willing to leave your comfort zone and connect with others.

Click here to read a newspaper article I wrote on how to reboot friendships after the pandemic.