“Sometimes you have to put your own needs first, even if that doesn’t please others. You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.” ~Shannon Olson
Like a lot of people who know better, I often put the needs, dreams, or wishes of others before my own. I allow myself to remain stuck in second place. Even if someone lets me off the hook and gives me “permission” to put myself first, I might feel guilty when I do so.
It gets tricky sometimes, because I truly enjoy helping others, especially the people I love. I want to be generous, agreeable, and useful.
Somewhere between selflessness and selfishness is a healthy balance. One thing I know for sure: When I set myself on fire to keep others warm, I usually end up burning with resentment. That’s not generous or useful to anyone. ~CL