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Real social connection
“Let’s be clear: we’re not talking about Instagram likes, your thousands of connections on LinkedIn, a fat contact list in your phone. Social connection means real relationships — with people who make you laugh, let you be yourself, and show up when it counts.” ~Dr. Frank Lipman Did you know that friendship — and an active social circle — can help you live a longer and healthier life? There’s plenty of science to back it up. As Dr. Frank Lipman points out in his current weekly health and longevity blog, an important study reports that loneliness and “low social integration” put us at risk of heart disease, stroke, depression, dementia,…
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Why life is better without Facebook
“The biggest problem is that Facebook and Google are these giant feedback loops that give people what they want to hear. And when you use them in a world where your biases are constantly confirmed, you become susceptible to fake news, propaganda, and demagoguery.” ~ Franklin Foer This year I’m celebrating nine happy years of Facebook sobriety. Once I quit, my emotional wellbeing, social life, family relationships, and productivity all improved. I started reading more, writing more, spending more time with friends and neighbors, and enjoying the simple pleasures I had overlooked while I was scrolling for social media updates. Though I wrote this Oakland Press column a couple of…
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Luminosity
“Look carefully around you and recognize the luminosity of souls. Sit beside those who draw you to that.” ~Rumi Other people’s moods and opinions are as contagious as the common cold. In fact, there’s a clinical study suggesting that we become like the five people with whom we spend most of our time. According to this theory, if your spouse and peer group are serial pessimists and complainers, you might be one too. It’s also likely that you share the same political views. Psychological studies aside, I’m always drawn to folks who spread their sunshine and draw me out of the shadows when I’m down. In his best-selling book, How…
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Where the light enters
“The wound is the place where the light enters you.” ~Rumi I spend a lot of time thinking about the quotes I post here. I always hope they’re thought-provoking, informative, or useful to you in some way. Some of you tell me you prefer a dose of positivity to jumpstart your day; others like to be challenged to look at old problems in new ways. At the same time, I consider whether or not the quotes are in sync with the news of the day or the cultural climate. When there’s news of yet another mass shooting in our deeply troubled country, for instance, I feel it would be insensitive…
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Meaningful gifts
“Gratitude is an emotion that reflects our deep appreciation for what we value, what brings meaning to our lives, and what makes us feel connected to ourselves and others.” ~Brene Brown, Atlas of the Heart My nesting instincts kick in when summer winds down and the new school year begins. I’m motivated to move furniture, declutter my closets, and donate books to the library. Though it sounds like work, early fall cleaning makes me appreciate the changing season as well as the treasures in my home. The salt-glaze pottery shown in today’s photo is one example. It was a gift from my college pal, Libby, who moved to Virginia after…
