Personal growth
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Living off-line
“When I grow up, I’m gonna look up from my phone and see my life.” ~Phoebe Bridgers I hope you all had a wonderful Memorial Day holiday. Three sunny months of summer stretch ahead of us, giving us the perfect opportunity to set aside our phones and laptops while we gather with friends and experience the beauty of the world outside. A growing body of research shows that being more connected online is actually making us lonelier — despite all those Facebook friends and Instagram followers. For instance, the American Medical Association examined several studies on internet use and psychological well-being. Overall, increased internet use was associated with “a decline…
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Taking action
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” ~Dale Carnegie Dale Carnegie often wrote about turning our anxiety into fuel for success. He understood that our problems and worries always loom larger when we’ve got too much idle time on our hands. Productivity moves us out of the shadows of rumination. Once we tackle an issue head on, it becomes less intimidating — even if we start with small steps toward resolution. What plan of action will you start today? ~CL Miss any posts this week? Check out the…
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Be kind to yourself
“I dreamed I called you on the telephone to say: Be kinder to yourself.” ~Adrienne Rich, poet and essayist In her hit song, “Harshest Critic,” Allison Ponthier asks: “Why is ‘being good to myself’ for someone else?” and “Who’s the harshest critic in the room?” I think we all know the answer. Most of us are incredibly hard on ourselves. On one hand, constructive self-criticism can be helpful at times. We can learn from our mistakes or oversights when we’re willing to admit them and repair the damages. We can grow and bloom from the soil of what went wrong. But if we get stuck in the traps of perfectionism…
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Domestic arts
“I no longer call such tasks ‘housework.’ I call them the ‘domestic arts,’ paying attention to all the ways they return me to my senses.” ~Barbara Brown Taylor, An Altar in the World: A Geography of Faith I’d be lying if I told you that I always enjoy housework. But when everything else feels chaotic or out of control, I find comfort and satisfaction in taking care of my home. I can’t change the world, but I can organize my kitchen drawers and plant my garden. One of many things I’ve admired about Martha Stewart is how she elevates house and garden care to an art form. Along these lines, Episcopal…
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How to brighten our dark thoughts
“I once had a garden filled with flowers that grew only on dark thoughts, but they needed constant attention, and one day I decided I had better things to do.” ~Brian Andreas Negativity is both lazy and self-destructive. It’s easy to get caught up in the hourly maelstrom of bad news, stressful events, and angry opinions — especially if you spend time on social media. “Dark thoughts” can become a pattern, a habit. (Haven’t we all met people who start complaining as soon as we ask how they’re doing?) Positivity takes tremendous effort, which is why so many people settle for the low-hanging fruit of doomscrolling. This is why I’m limiting how much stressful…
