No-regrets caregiving guide

In the November issue of AARP magazine, editor Robert Love saluted the 39.8 million Americans who currently provide unpaid care to an adult, dubbing them both “noble” and selfless. During the last six years of my mother’s life, I inherited the task of managing her long battle with vascular dementia. Had you asked me then, I […]

Moving Mom

Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” — Maya Angelou Yesterday, while labeling my mother’s clothing and underwear, I had a surreal moment in which I felt as if I were moving another kid to college. In reality, we’re getting ready to transfer […]

Bringing Grandma back

Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family.  Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.”  ~Jane Howard It’s not always easy to be a family. For starters, our troubled job market makes it nearly impossible for relatives to live in the same community — […]

Notes from Janus

And now, let us welcome the New Year/ Full of things that have never been.” — Rainer Maria Rilke It’s perfect — how the month of January is named for Janus, the Roman god of gates and entrances, beginnings and endings.  With his two heads facing opposite directions, Janus inspires us to look backward and […]

Keeping the flame

There are years that ask questions and years that answer.” — Zora Neale Hurston For several years I’ve kept a small garden statue of a woman by our side entrance. I named her Hestia after the ancient goddess of home and family. In Greek mythology, Hestia’s role was to keep the flame of the hearth […]