Ditch the grudge

“When you hold a grudge, you want someone else’s sorrow to reflect your level of hurt — but the two rarely meet. Get even with people — but not those who have hurt you. Forget them. Instead, get even with those who have helped you.” ~Steve Maraboli

Are you still hanging on to old wounds and hurts? As today’s quote reminds us, grudge-bearing is a waste of time. As it often happens, the folks who’ve done something grudge-worthy might be unaware of how deeply their behavior has hurt or angered us. Or they’ve already moved on.

Not that anyone should tolerate chronic mistreatment of any kind. As any good therapist would tell you, if you’re suffering the slings and arrows of a “repeat offender,” it’s best to walk away and find nicer people to hang with. But ditch the grudges on your way out the door, too. There’s great emotional freedom in forgiving and letting go. ~CL

If you missed my newest column in The Oakland Press last week, you can read it online here.