Assisted living for Mom

The years teach us much the days never knew.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

An essay about moving my mother to assisted living will be featured Sunday, June 3, in the North and West editions of Michigan Senior Living. The magazine is included with The Detroit News and Free Press Sunday paper. “Moving Mom” was tough to write, given the sensitive nature of this painful transition, but I hope it brings comfort to others who’ve recently found themselves at the same crossroad with their own parents.

My friend and colleague, Claire Charlton, wrote a very informative feature on how to choose the right assisted living facility for senior care — and how to handle the emotional challenges. Look for it in the same issue.

For those with a special interest in this topic, here’s a link to an earlier column I wrote about dealing with my mother’s dementia before her move to assisted living.  — CL

6 thoughts on “Assisted living for Mom

  1. Hi Cindy, I’ll be watching for your article– congratulations on its publication. I know how difficult this process has been for you and your mom. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but you’ve handled it all so well and with such grace.
    xo jj

    • Aw, thanks, Joanna. But I can’t say I’ve always handled it that well, to be totally honest. I’ve had a rough week this week, especially, following a change in my mother’s meds and some anxiety issues. Not easy. Thanks for your nice comment!

  2. The operative word here is “choice.”
    Many people don’t have much of a choice when it comes to assisted living or full-time nursing care. If they have been sick, or injured, they must find a vacancy before being released from the hospital. In our case we were given 24 hours to find a place for mom after her 2nd stroke. We quickly arranged to visit the 2 facilities with an opening, it boiled down to the lesser of 2 evils.
    When you can’t afford a private pay room the choices are very limited.
    Hope I’m never in that position again.

    • Bridgette, as noted in my essay, that’s a bit like what happened with my mother. The decision was made for us after yet another trip to the ER late last year.

  3. Oh Cindy. Brings tears to my eyes. Such a difficult process to go through, the loss an inch at a time. I’m glad that you found a lovely place for her and that there is some relief in that. Hugs and congrats to a wonderful piece!

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