A happier closet?

Posted on September 7, 2011
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“I wanted to change my life without changing my life, by finding more happiness in my own kitchen.” — Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project

With autumn on its way, I’ve been pitching and sorting; letting go of things that no longer serve my lifestyle. On Labor Day weekend, I stuffed nearly half of my wardrobe and a pile of books into five giant trash bags, then dragged them to the front porch for the Vietnam Veterans of America donation pick-up.

I’ve been inspired by The Happiness Project, a self-help guide I’m reading for our neighborhood book group. It’s the perfect time of year for a book about discovering what makes us happy — and how to employ simple changes that add up to contentment.

Author Gretchen Rubin is a practical soul with a real life — pretty much like the rest of us. She admits she’s inspired by “more radical happiness projects,” including Thoreau’s solitary sabbatical on Walden Pond (which I’ve always admired) as well as Elizabeth Gilbert’s exotic spiritual wanderings in Eat, Pray, Love (which I found a little flaky). But Rubin is a working wife and mother, and not the sort who’s inclined to do anything outlandish on the path to enlightenment. She simply wanted to to squeeze more juice out of her life — in her own apartment in New York.

So she embarked on a year of researching “happiness.”

As Rubin discovered, most people get a huge energy boost — which leads to happy feelings — when they create a sense order in their physical surroundings. If your eyes are starting to glaze over, take heart: De-cluttering is only one stop on the author’s quest for happiness. Later in the book, she also tackles the deeper philosophical theories on the subject.

But happiness begins at home, so that’s where she started.

“I went straight to the festering heart of my household clutter: my own closet,” Rubin explains.  While she didn’t hire an architect or a closet organizer to redesign her storage space, she employed what she calls the most “essential clutter tool” available to everyone: trash bags.

“Instead of making people feel more satisfied, a wide range of choices can paralyze them.” — Gretchen Rubin

“When I finished, I had four bags full of clothes, and I could see huge patches of the back of my closet,” Rubin recalls. “I no longer felt drained; instead, I felt exhilarated.”  After purging her closet, Rubin suddenly had easy access to pieces she would actually wear. Which meant she had more to wear.

“Although people believe they like to have a lot of choice, in fact, having too many choices can be discouraging. Instead of making people feel more satisfied, a wide range of choices can paralyze them.”

Amen to that. A longtime collector, I tend to hoard old prom dresses, “skinny” jeans that used to fit, Halloween costumes, and bridesmaid gowns that could pass for Halloween costumes. And having spent the last two years working as a background extra in Michigan films, I’ve accumulated an “extra” wardrobe of thrift-shop costumes that compete for space in the closets of our spare bedrooms. I wear only a fraction of these “choices” daily. I end up wearing the same pieces because I’m too lazy — or overwhelmed — to weed through my own wardrobe jungle.

Following Rubin’s example, I brought several trash bags upstairs and got busy. In the process, I discovered buried treasure in the back of my closet, plus dozens of pieces that had gone out of fashion ages ago. Not to mention all the stuff that wouldn’t fit.

So I divided my potential discards into two piles: Clothing I could wear at our three-season home in western Michigan, and clothing to donate to charity. I find it’s much easier to part with costly fashion mistakes when I know that someone in need will use and enjoy them.

As happiness expert Gretchen Rubin discovered, weeding out a closet is more than a simple act of getting organized for a new season. By making it easier to find the clothes I really want to wear, I free up the morning energy I need to devote to more important activities — and things that make me happy. The kitchen pantry is next on the list. – Cindy La Ferle

 

 

 

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10 Responses to “A happier closet?”

  1. Mary Ellen Warner on September 7th, 2011 10:11 am

    Must have been the Michigan weather! I gathered enough items to fill my car trunk yesterday. The next time I drive past the Salvation Army Center on John R I can stop for quick donation.

    Some fall decorations are hard to give up … but I know someone will notice on the shelf and be delighted with their find!

  2. Lynne Cobb on September 7th, 2011 8:19 pm

    I love the quote “…a wide range of choices can paralyze them…” That is so true, whether it’s a closet or even the cereal aisle at the grocery store!! I’m motivated to keep purging, though I may need a Dumpster for cleaning the basement!

  3. Debra Darvick on September 8th, 2011 6:17 am

    Right there with you, Cindy. I am a ruthless purger when it comes to closet space. As to the cereal choices. I once read that an immigrant from the former USSR had a panic attack in the cereal aisle. Too many choices…

  4. Cindy on September 8th, 2011 9:51 am

    Debra and Lynne — the part about “too many choices” really hit home with me too. I am often overwhelmed by too many choices. And when I shop for things, I am inclined not to buy when there’s too much “variety” to choose from. I prefer the smaller independent bookstores, for example, because they have fewer tables and shelves of books — and what they do have is thoughtfully chosen and displayed. I always end up buying “staff recommendations” from those little bookstores, and am always pleased with the purchases. I can’t possibly look at everything that’s available at the big chain stores — just too much to take in all at once — so I end up staying in two or three sections of the store and miss all the rest.

    Likewise, when there’s too much to read online — countless blogs and online ‘zines — my eyes glaze over. I leave the computer and go read a book or do something else. I can’t stand being bombarded by too much of anything.

  5. Cheryl Wright on September 8th, 2011 4:35 pm

    I was so inspired by your post and your own actions that I de-cluttered my kitchen pantry and plan to move on to my closet on Saturday.

    In my experience, too many choices equal stress, confusion and clutter.

  6. Cindy on September 8th, 2011 6:41 pm

    That’s so cool — thank you, Cheryl!!

  7. Bridgette on September 11th, 2011 3:09 pm

    Sweet inspiration! I can’t wait to get started.

  8. Bridgette on September 11th, 2011 3:12 pm

    Another thought, one of the places that needs the most attention to de-cluttering is my mind. I hold on to much to much trivial information.
    That might take more effort that the closets!

  9. Cindy on September 11th, 2011 4:54 pm

    Bridgette, I’m right there with ya !! :-)

  10. Mike on February 2nd, 2012 11:42 pm

    That’s a very informative post.. When you’re done sorting, go through your “keep” pile again. Does any of this need to go in the “dump” or “donate” piles? Remember that it’s just stuff. You don’t need it if you don’t use it. It will help you to get rid of unwanted stuff.

    Mike

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